Monday, February 20, 2012

25 Ways to Show Your Hubby Respect

I'm a newlywed. I'm young. I'm still learning about marriage, and what it means to be a good wife. Sometimes I feel like I'm doing great....and other times I am a disappointment to myself. But no matter what kind of wife I find myself being at times, I never want to stop learning what it means for me to be respectful, loving and submissive to my hubby. 

I have been slowly reading through a book called "Becoming the Woman of His Dreams" by Sharon Jaynes. In this book, Sharon details 7 qualities that men long for in their wives. It's very encouraging and challenging. This week, I read her chapter on respect. She outlines 25 ways to respect your husband....

1. Do not talk down to him

2. Do not talk badly about him to others

3. Do not check behind him to make sure he did something to your standard

4. Do not disregard his wishes

5. Do not ignore his requests

6. Do not laugh at his mistakes

7. Do not make him the brunt of your jokes

8. Do not compare him to other men

9. Do not complain about your finances or his ability as a provider

10. Do not speak sarcastically or with verbal jabs

11. Do not roll your eyes when he makes comments you don't agree with

12. Do not continually "have a better idea

13. Do talk to him in a pleasant tone

14. Do speak highly or compliment him in front of others

15. Do allow him to do tasks his own way and then thank him when he is finished

16. Do value his opinions

17. Do support his decisions

18. Do try to fulfill his requests

19. Do thank him for providing for your family

20. Do allow him to make final decisions

21. Do support him in his decisions regardless of the outcome

22. Do avoid the words, "I told you so"

23. Do take care of your appearance

24. Do ask his opinion about your clothes/hairstyle etc...

25. Do tell him you are proud of him

Wow! If you are like me, you never knew that this much went into being a respectful wife! This was challenging to me as a wife that even when I think I'm doing "pretty good," there's always room for God to challenge and teach me more. 


  1. Thanks for sharing! I am right there with you...sometimes I feel I am doing a good job at being a wife and other times, when work gets the best of me, I feel like I should be doing so much more! Keep sharing especially your date night ideas! I love reading them and because of you Jason and I try to have one every Monday or Tuesday night!

  2. Respect goes a long way. When we respect our husbands (and vice versa) it means we are communicating and listening to each other's needs. It can be challenging at times, but it's not impossible.

    Thanks for sharing.

  3. I am not married yet, but whenever i come across information like this, I completely soak it up! Thank you for sharing :)

  4. After 40 years of marriage, I have gotten into some bad habits in relating to my hubby. This list is just what I need to help me focus on my Lenten intention. I wrote about it without revealing what it is on my blog but it is exactly this; and, the Lord put it on my heart before you posted. So, you are speaking right to me as well as I'm sure to many others... Read my post here where I refer to yours:

  5. Stumbled onto your blog and just wanted to show yous some blog luv! def enjoyed this post :)

  6. I just stumbled across your blog also. You and your blog are just lovely. Following via e-mail. Look forward to your posts. Just lovely! Thank you so much.

  7. Hi Faith- I just came across your blog and am now following. I love this post! It is such a great reminder of just how vital it is we play out our love and respect through actions. You are right, it is a challenge because satan sets out to have us manipulate our husbands (Genesis 3:16) but guidlines like this help us keep our hearts towards being a Godly wife. Do you mind if I post this on my blog with credit to you?

  8. Faith I am a new follower to you blog and just wanted to say thanks for this list! Satan sets out to convince us we need to manipulate our husbands (...and your desire shall be for your husband. Gen 3:16) but the truth is that we need to display our love and respect for our through our actions, focusing on the changes we need to make within ourselves and letting God work in our husbands hearts the way he sees fit.

  9. Thank you for this list. I had to come back and see the list to see how I'm doing. I was looking for "Don't say, I told you" but I couldn't find it. Then I saw it with avoid... That is the one I'm working on the hardest, among others.


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