Saturday, February 16, 2013

Does being a mom suck?

Does being a mom suck? 
I know that sounds like a horrible question to even ask, but  last week I was talking with a close friend of mine who recently found out she was pregnant. She was telling me that when a lot of people find out she is pregnant, they begin warning her and telling her about all of the negative things associated with being a new mom. We've all heard it before, and maybe we are the ones saying it to that unsuspecting mom...

"Your life will never be the same"
"Sleep now, cause you never will again"
"Say goodbye to your sex life"
"Good luck fitting in your clothes ever again"
"There's nothing like stretch marks to ruin your bikini body"
"You will never have a moment to yourself again"

What is the message we are sending? Does being a mom really suck?

I will be the first to admit that being a first time mom is not easy. I've never been so tired in my life. But I've also never been so happy. All of those "negative" things listed above are way overshadowed by the joy that my sweet pea has brought into my life. 

I know I am guilty of sharing the negative aspects of motherhood rather than sharing the joys. It's good to be reminded that the words we say and the attitude that we come across with in regards to motherhood can really damage or uplift someone else's perspective, especially a first time mom!

I am so thankful for the women in my life who love being moms and have shared that positive attitude with me. It's true, you can either focus on the sleepless nights, endless loads of laundry, the crying and the lack of time to yourself or you can focus on the snuggles, the smiles, the little noises, the love, and just the sweetness of being what your baby needs!

So if you are about to be a new mom and terrified of how hard it's going to be, just remember that how you look at your new role as a mom is completely up to you. Yeah, it could suck...but it could also be amazing!
What do I think about being a mom? Well, I'm sure you've figured that out from my previous posts, but I don't even have the words to describe how much I love my daughter and how much I love being a mother to her. Yes, there are hard moments, but I mostly just love it.
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16 comments:

  1. I love this post. I just gave birth to my son last week and it definitely is hard at first, as well as scary, but he is the most beautiful thing in the whole world and I couldn't ask for anything more. Being a mom definitely has its ups and downs, but there's no reason to only give off the bad things about it.

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  2. There is nothing better than being a mom to our little ones! I'm enjoying every minute with her and I'm sure you are too!

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  3. Stephanie @ LifeCreatedFebruary 16, 2013 at 4:01 PM

    I just wrote a similar post about this type of thing.

    Check it out if you want...I loved your post :)
    Thanks for sharing..it is hard to be a new mom, but the bads are less than the goods.

    http://www.lifecreated.com/2013/02/remembering-lasts-encouraging-moms.html

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  4. There is absolutely NOTHING better than being a mommy...and what I try to tell people is that all of those hard times are completely 100% worth everything and, in just a few years you won't remember those first months of craziness (trust me, my son is 2.5 and I honestly don't remember much from those first blurred months). I had a "friend" at my job when I was pregnant with my son that was only like 2 months ahead of me in her pregnancy and her comment to me for EVERYTHING "oh, it's gets worse"...well, I didn't view it as "worse", those pregnancy symptoms were for a GREAT reason and she annoyed me, haha. Awesome post!

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  5. Love this! I definitely remember those kinds of comments when I was first pregnant with our son! HOnestly sometimes I would wonder why people even had kids to begin with if it was as awful as people were making it out to be! I kind of scared me.

    Then-my son was born and wow! There are hard days but oh there are so many more good day and wonderful memories! :) I am SO THANKFUL for my son! Being a Mama is just truly a desire that I had all my life and the Lord gave it to me :) So thankful for that!

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  6. I love this, totally guilty of talking about the negatives but I think that's with anything in life. As humans we tend to bitch more than anything lol . By the way you guys are so cute!

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  7. This is a beautiful post! When I was pregnant, some people definitely mentioned how difficult motherhood would be and everything that I would lose. I never appreciated those comments. Yes, motherhood is challenging, but it is also rewarding.

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  8. i will be honest, it sometimes sucks. Especially if you have friends who don;t have any kids. It can really be hard sometimes. But I don't charge the suckiness to my children, but only to myself because i made the choice to have them and I am so blessed to have them in my life. But at times, i do admit, I want at least one day without my kids, just one day to sleep and chill, lol. But i will never have any other way.

    it is true your life will never be the same, it will always be fun and never dull!

    -Rekita
    Her&Nicole

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  9. I agree! There's nothing better than being a mommy!! I absolutely love it and wouldn't trade it for the world! Yes it's hard, but it's all worth it. Let me just say that I'm having the time of my life doing what God created me to do...be a mom :)

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  10. You get so many different reaction to people's "take" on mommyhood. If anyone ever asks me I say DO IT! It is the greatest thing in the world. My husband and I don't know why we waited so long.


    Stopping by from mommy moments
    Tiffany
    www.littlegems3.blogspot.com

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  11. Becoming a Mother is HARD. Especially for the first time! I just had my baby girl 6 weeks ago and it has been the longest and hardest 6 weeks of my life. I have never been more exhausted, never gone so long without showering or getting ready...But even with every hour feedings every night, looking into her eyes makes EVERYTHING okay. It is hard to be tired or mad when she is there starring at you. So YES, life does change - but you are right - it is ALL about perspective.

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  12. Being a mom is the most beautiful thing to be. I have never thought that being a mom sucks. Yes, it will be hard but it is the most amazing feeling. There is absolutely nothing better than being a mother. By the way, your baby girl is so beautiful :)

    Anne {The Pink Momma}
    http://www.iamannekehn.blogspot.com/

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  13. So true! Its all in how you look at it! I remember hearing 'sleep now cause you won't be able to for a long time' but in fact I never really remember being that tired when Makayla was wee little! I knew what to expect and I guess things just didn't seem as 'bad' as what others made them out to be! Like you said..its all in how you look at it!

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  14. I have never really understood when people only look at the negative of things. Motherhood is no different. I was a stylist when I was pregnant with my first and to hear the stories was really disheartening. I never wanted to be {one of those mothers}. Focus on the positive, and even I need to vent occasionally but usually to myself in the shower. :) I never want my children to hear me speak of them that way and I don't really want to hear someone else's problems constantly either. Yes it's not with out trials, I lost my baby boy when he was 6 months old and it will never be okay, but I have to stay positive for my other 2 children I have. They are amazing. Okay sorry about that soap box, but it hit a button. :)
    Hailey @ Love, Laughter and Lipstick

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  15. Good post, Faith - I know everyone likes to make comments to new parents, and the negative ones can start to get annoying, because the newborn days are such a sweet time and you don't want to wish it away!

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  16. Thank you for your positive spin on motherhood. We all know being a parent is hard work and focusing on the negative is too easy.

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