I know that sounds like a horrible question to even ask, but last week I was talking with a close friend of mine who recently found out she was pregnant. She was telling me that when a lot of people find out she is pregnant, they begin warning her and telling her about all of the negative things associated with being a new mom. We've all heard it before, and maybe we are the ones saying it to that unsuspecting mom...
"Your life will never be the same"
"Sleep now, cause you never will again"
"Say goodbye to your sex life"
"Good luck fitting in your clothes ever again"
"There's nothing like stretch marks to ruin your bikini body"
"You will never have a moment to yourself again"
What is the message we are sending? Does being a mom really suck?
I will be the first to admit that being a first time mom is not easy. I've never been so tired in my life. But I've also never been so happy. All of those "negative" things listed above are way overshadowed by the joy that my sweet pea has brought into my life.
I know I am guilty of sharing the negative aspects of motherhood rather than sharing the joys. It's good to be reminded that the words we say and the attitude that we come across with in regards to motherhood can really damage or uplift someone else's perspective, especially a first time mom!
I am so thankful for the women in my life who love being moms and have shared that positive attitude with me. It's true, you can either focus on the sleepless nights, endless loads of laundry, the crying and the lack of time to yourself or you can focus on the snuggles, the smiles, the little noises, the love, and just the sweetness of being what your baby needs!
So if you are about to be a new mom and terrified of how hard it's going to be, just remember that how you look at your new role as a mom is completely up to you. Yeah, it could suck...but it could also be amazing!
What do I think about being a mom? Well, I'm sure you've figured that out from my previous posts, but I don't even have the words to describe how much I love my daughter and how much I love being a mother to her. Yes, there are hard moments, but I mostly just love it.
Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.