Thursday, April 17, 2014

Pulling Back the Shades (of Grey) and get your own FREE copy!

When I was asked to review the book Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery, my first thought was no, that doesn't even apply to me or the Christian women who will be reading my review, and it's not really a topic I want on my blog, right?

But then I recalled a previous conversation with a friend about the book nearly a year ago. She is a Christian and was reading the books. I also remembered seeing a Facebook status where a Christian friend had recommended the book to another Christian friend. Upon further investigation, I discovered that the statistics show that among all American adults who reading Fifty Shades of Grey, one in five were Christians.

My heart sank as I realized this truly was an issue, even among Christian women, and one that needs to be addressed no matter how awkward or uncomfortable that may be.

Although I began reading this book with a "this isn't for me" perspective, I was amazed by how insightful it was, and how challenging it was in my own life. This is a book, not just for women who struggle with erotica, but for all women who want to gain a better understanding of the desires God has given us and how to appropriately fulfill them.

Pulling Back the Shades is a book every woman should read, whether you struggle with sexual sin or not. The book not only exposes Fifty Shades of Grey for the danger that it is, but it also encourages Christian women to take action against Satan's attack on our lives and in our friend's lives!

To start off the book, Slattery and Gresh do a great job of explaining why women, yes, even Christian women are reading these books. "Women aren't just drawn into books like Fifty Shades of Grey  for the entertainment value. Erotica strategically and masterfully pulls you in by exploiting what your heart secretly longs for." Pulling Back the Shades challenges you to find what the deeper issue is rather than allowing these books to temporarily feed your longings.
I am passionate about this particular subject because I believe Satan is using these books to destroy not just women, but our marriages, our families and our homes by offering a false sense of fulfillment that will ultimately lead to a greater feeling of discontentment. I loved the way Slattery and Gresh gracefully and lovingly address every area of this issue, reminding us that we "will never reach contentment reading something that is intended to make you long for more".

What makes this issue worse is that these books are portrayed as reality when they, in fact, are not. "Erotica twists and distorts the results of making immoral and foolish choices. In the real world, our actions have consequences." In addition, "Erotica makes it seem normal for us (women) to be abused, but it's not normal." And it's not ok, either. 

Pulling Back the Shades also addresses the excuse that reading erotica can "wake up your libido, helping you to become the lover you want to be to your husband".  That lie is refuted not only with scripture but also with a good dose of reality and reasoning.  "If you read Fifty Shades and then invest in a relationship that is built around sexual sadism, you will not end up in a loving, caring, committed marriage."

Slattery and Gresh do not shy away from the fact that reading erotica is sin. Yes, sin.

Matthew 5:27-28 says, Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

"This includes sexual fantasy, pornography, online relationships and YES, erotica...stop flirting with anything that causes you to think, lust, or fantasize about a man other than your husband." The book then goes on to discuss not only the danger that comes with the sin, but the joy that can come when we experience intimacy the way God intended it. 

Slattery and Gresh hit the nail on the head when it comes to the topic of Fifty Shades of Grey. I'm so glad they wrote Pulling Back the Shades and have generously offered an extra copy for me to give away to one of you, my readers! If you are a Christian woman who has read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, is reading it, or is curious about doing so, please read this book first and weigh the consequences. Even if you have no desire to read the trilogy, I highly recommend this book as a way to educate yourself on how to help your fellow women who are being deceived. 

"It was for our freedom that Jesus died! Our entire being-including our sexuality-should be an expression of God's redeeming love."

Right now, you can get a FREE copy of Pulling Back the Shades in exchange for your copy of Fifty Shades of Grey. Visit the link here for more info!

In addition to this great book, you should check out Passion Pursuit-What Kind of Love Are You Making by the same author on a similar topic. It was a great study that will benefit you in your personal life as well as your marriage! 
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  1. My favorite book genre is adventure novels. Precisely because they don't usually have much "adult" content.

  2. My favorite book genre is biblical counseling books.

  3. I'm not gonna lie and say I've never read the 50 shades books. I read them because there was so much hype...then i kept reading them cause the storyline had me wondering what happened next. I'm not into erotica, and this is the first of its' kind that I've read. I can see how people can get
    "sucked in". I'm gonna check this book out!

  4. I heard a radio interview with Juli Slattery about a month ago about this book release that was so good...I'm sure the book itself is even better!

  5. This book definitely sounds interesting! My favorite book genre is anything bible-based - Made to Crave is my latest read!
    Amy @

    1. Oh I have wanted to read Made to Crave. I've heard it's great! Thanks for entering :)

  6. Fifty Shades of Grey never interested me. But I know quite a few Christian woman read it. This book does sound interesting. My favorite books are suspense with a little romance. Thanks for sharing with Share Your Cup.

  7. Yes, I love suspense with a bit of romance as well :) Thanks for stopping by and entering!

  8. unfortunately I did read the first of fifty shades of gray and can say that its is disturbing. as a sexual women that I am. it set images that are not good. specially if you are going trough a challenging marriage.

    I do hope people do see how skillful Satan is and how he can enter our homes our life and destroy what he finds on his way.

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