Monday, February 9, 2015

Is the Bible grey on Fifty Shades of Grey?

I'm not a psychologist, a philosopher, theologian, or anything professional, really. I'm just a friend and sister in Christ who cares. 
Believe me, it's easier not to care.
 It's easier to be quiet, to stop typing, to not put myself out there for people to criticize and poke fun at. 

Yet, as I watch women, and sisters in Christ across the web rave about the new upcoming movie Fifty Shades of Grey, my heart physically hurts for what these women are allowing into their minds, hearts and souls.  I can no longer sit in the shadows because this isn't just something that will affect those who view the movie. This movie is going to affect relationships, marriages, children and everyone in between if society begins to view a "fifty shades relationship" (even with consent) as love.

I know there are a ton of articles out there warning you of how this movie will affect you emotionally, physically and especially spiritually. There are even books written on how damaging Fifty Shades of Grey will ultimately be for your marriage, and yes, even your love life. I have shared many of those additional resources outlining the dangers of Fifty Shades at the end of this post and I strongly encourage you to read them.

Because I know that adding my thoughts and opinions to the millions out there really doesn't hold a whole lot of weight, after all you don't really even know me, so why should you care what I think, I feel that it holds a lot more weight to share with you what God thinks about Fifty Shades of Grey. I have found that God's words are far more powerful than my own. 

1. We are commanded in God's word to live holy, set apart lives. I don't think I have to convince anyone that a book or movie like Fifty Shades of Grey is anything but holy.

*1 Peter 1:16
Since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.”

*2 Corinthians 7:1 Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God.

*Proverbs 4:23
Guard your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

*Ephesians 4:22-24
Put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

2. Our bodies belong to God. Our lives are to be sacrificial offerings of worship for the Lord. Your eyes belong to the Lord, your mind belongs to the Lord; YOU are his temple. Take a moment to consider what types of things belong in the temple of the Lord. Erotica, sexually explicit scenes and pornography belong nowhere near a holy temple of God.

*Romans 12:1
 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

*1 Corinthians 6:19
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own. You were bought with a price, so glorify God in your body.

3. Sexual immorality is sin. Sexual immorality includes things like sex outside of marriage, adultery, homosexuality, pornography, erotica, and even lust which takes place in your mind and heart. When you view images that celebrate immorality, glorify it, and yes even romanticize it, you are sinning against your own body. 

*1 Corinthians 6:18

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

*1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;

*Romans 13:14
But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.

*Colossians 3:10
And have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.

*Galatians 5:19-21
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

4. We are to fill our minds with things that glorify God. If you feel that a movie like Fifty Shades of Grey brings glory to God then you are either misinformed about the movie, or misinformed about God. I have heard so many women say that they are going to this movie because it has a great story line. The Bible is clear that we are to think on things that our pure, lovely, and honorable, and it doesn't make exceptions for good story lines. 

*Phillipians 4:8 
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

*Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

5. God's word gives us a clear picture of what love is. And it's not fifty shades of grey. We have love only because God loved us first and is our example of love. His love is freeing rather than binding, gentle rather than abusive, patient rather than controlling. The Bible teaches us that love is selfless. It gives up of our selves rather than taking whatever we want however we want it. Fifty Shades of Grey is leading us away from true love, not towards it. 

*1 Corinthians 13:4-8
 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

*Romans 13:10
Love does no harm to its neighbor

*Ephesians 4:2
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 

*1 John 4:18-19
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us. 

*Ephesians 5:25
Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. 

I hope after reading these verses you can clearly see that this is not a grey area in the Bible. And I want to boldly challenge all Christian women that to read or watch Fifty Shades of Grey is to be living in direct opposition to what God's word commands of us as Christians. And to go against God's word is sin. 

I want to clarify that this post does not come out of a place of pride or arrogance. I am not a perfect Christian, nor do I have it all figured out. I know there are areas of weakness and sin in my own life that I need to work on as well. This is simply a challenge to my Christian sisters to stand up against the culture and preserve purity, marriage, love, and holiness for ourselves, for our marriages, for our families and ultimately for the glory of God. Proverbs 4:23 says "Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life."  I pray that even if you don't care what I think that you care what God, your father in heaven thinks. After all, He's the only one that truly matters.

*Additional resources
Pulling Back The Shades (FREE book offer with trade in of your Fifty Shades)

And if you still want to see a movie on Valentines Day, go see Old Fashioned Love instead! 


  1. This was spot on! My husband and I recently had a very similar conversation. Thank you for being bold. We are God's instruments and it's our jobs to make some noise :) Thank you again.

    1. Thank you for the encouragement Kristy! Yes, it's much easier to sit back in the shadows but when God tells me to make noise, I write!

  2. Great post, I wish everyone would read this! I don't understand how any woman (believer in God or not) can watch this movie. Why watch something that glorifies women in bondage or think that this is how relationships should be.

    1. Thanks Chastity! I hope that the women who need to read it do so with an open heart. Our hearts are so easily deceived and sometimes it's only by God's word that we are freed!

  3. Couldn't agree more. Thanks for the post! 😊

  4. I appreciate your bravery in writing this post... I agree with you and I hope at least some women are turned back from watching the movie by what you have written. Thank you.

  5. I am so glad you had the courage to write this! Your points are beautifully made and supported by the word of God. It amazes me that women, even Christian women, can still find ways to justify their watching/reading a story like this. This is the first time I've heard of the movie Old Fashioned - I hope its in a theater near me!! (Although with a 5 month old, I'm not so sure a movie date night is on the agenda for Valentines day this year!!) Also - I was reading one of your 'about you' posts the other day and I grew up in Farmington, MN as well!! We lived there until I was in 3rd grade (went to Akin Road Elementary School) and then we moved to Prior Lake, MN :)

    1. Thank you for the encouragement! Oh that is so cool! Yes, I lived off of Cedar Ave in Farmington. I was home schooled otherwise who knows, we may been to school together. I'm sure we crossed paths at some point. So cool!!

  6. I love love love this post. Many people will not understand, but it's important to speak up.

  7. Youre a modern day Jeremiah

  8. Great post. There was a report about the controversy of this movie on the local news today. There was a young lady, who claims Christianity saying she knows her faith and she will watch or read something provocative if she wants. I thought to myself, she doesn't know the danger she is putting herself in. I have a past of that kind of thinking and it is a very addictive thing and can harm your faith, your relationship with the Lord. Like you stated we must make an effort to stay clear of the things we know will hinder our walk with God.

  9. Excellent post! I, too, had not said anything about 50 Shades for a long time. But then, here is Canada, we had a radio personality say that his relationships with women were like their own version of shades of grey - and women were outraged by this (ummm...we can't have it both ways...). So, I wrote a post about it. THEN, I discovered this other guy who preyed upon women using special tactics - and he taught other men to do the same - very similar to Christian Grey - and women were outraged by this. So, I wrote another post.
    I commend you for making your thoughts on the topic known. AND for using scripture!! My prayer lately has been that I will never be so deep into my sin that I no longer feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit.
    Stellar post!

  10. Preach it girl!!! I literally just wrote a post on this today. :D Great minds think alike eh?

  11. Thank you for sharing this with us at Grace & Truth this week! I won copy of "Pulling Back the Shades" and I love that Christians the world over and taking a stand against 50 Shades... Awesome thoughts here!!


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